Engagement can be a stressful time. It's a weird in-between stage- more than dating but not yet married- and you're constantly bombarded with questions about the wedding while the never-ending laundry list of wedding tasks is ever-turning in the back of your mind. This season of life is so special and should be enjoyed to its fullest! But how do you make the most of it without being pulled in twenty different directions while never feeling like you're giving enough to any of them? I've asked some engaged friends to share their wisdom on tips that have helped them immensely in enjoying the season of engagement. I hope they bring you peace of mind just the same!
1. Pray about everything
"Pray about EVERYTHING! The Lord brings favor (and has definitely brought us favor!) to his beloved children and we have been blessed to find amazing vendors at great prices and many of whom have hearts for Jesus! Which is always a plus :) so pray the Lord brings the right vendors/venues into your path!" -Christin, Charlotte, NC
"Always pray together when things are stressful and praise God when things are good!" -Madison, Charleston, SC
"We pray every night and that definitely strengthens us as a couple and brings us to the Lord. Just try to not get caught up in all the hubbub!" -Shaunessy, Herndon, VA
2. Make time for wedding-free conversation
"Make sure and pick times (for Chris and I being long distance we try to make it whenever we're together) to focus on each other and have wedding-free conversation! No talk of anything wedding related, just a true date night! We try to keep wedding talk to a minimum when we are together and just talk about that stuff on the phone or Skype when we're apart!" -Christin, Charlotte, NC
"I would say communication is the biggest part! I found with Jesse and I that while we walked through picking out everything together, we listened to what each other really wanted and tried to meet in the middle!" -Hayley, Florence, SC
4. Focus on the marriage more than the wedding
"Definitely remembering that this time is about the marriage and not so much about the actual wedding!" -Madison, Charleston, SC
"Remember this time is about the marriage and becoming one together with Christ and not getting to caught up in the wedding process!" -Hayley, Florence, SC
5. Consider marriage counseling
"Look into marriage counseling. We are doing a six week marriage counseling that meets every Sunday from 4-6 and it is the best thing ever!" -Hayley, Florence, SC
6. Read together
"Try and find a devotional or book to read together. Something to enjoy and remind you what it's all about. A marriage to us is two people who serve the Lord better when they are together than apart, so have fun and let Christ's love shine through!" -Alexis, Florence, SC
7. Continue to date each other
"One thing Kurt and I like to do is have at least one date night every week where we just do something fun! Even if it is going out to dinner or him making me dinner and watching a movie. That way we can de-stress from the week and just have fun with each other. He knows how to calm me down when I get stressed so that helps too." -Shaunessy, Herndon, VA
7. Have fun!
"Remember to have fun with the process! This only happens once so don't sweat the small stuff. When things get too stressful, stop, do something fun and come back later!" -Alexis, Florence, SC
Have more tips on enjoying your engagement? Share in the comments below!